phrases like “you don’t owe anyone anything” and “relationships aren’t transactional” have the power to be used in ways that are very backwards and harmful
for example, no you don’t owe anyone anything in that if some creep is trying to get with you, you can block him without feeling bad. you don’t owe kindness to people who are transphobic or racist or bigoted.
but, you can’t use this as an excuse to fuck over people who have helped you. “you don’t owe anyone anything” isn’t an excuse to allow yourself to forget compassion and basic empathy, it isn’t an excuse for you to be an asshole just because you find it easier to be one
relationships aren’t transactional in that if your partner does something nice for you, you are indebted to them. they do these things because they love you; it is their choice to express love through these gestures
but they are transactional in that you both actively need to be putting time and care into the relationship. ignoring the dynamic of one person caring too much (and putting in excessive (emotional an literal) work and labor) while the other does nothing isn’t healthy. one person can’t solely take and the other person can’t solely give- that’s dangerous, and you can’t put the bandaid of “this isn’t transactional” over a relationship that is draining you in all capacities
i’m tired of seeing these things being misconstrued and used as an excuse to hurt people, while framing it as a way of taking care of yourself
“Humanoid” can be a vague term when looking at alien/creature cause sometimes it refers to anything that’s upright and loosely has the body plan of a human, and other times people mean literally just a normal ass human with things added on
as long as it has a sensory organ or two and some limbs, it’s humanoid enough as far as I’m concerned.
Behold a man
the bare minimum is that humanoids must be bipedal
Behold a man: part 2
And they can’t have feathers
BEHOLD A MAN
Man we really are doomed to repeat history aren’t we?
you’ve fucked up a perfectly good dinosaur is what you did. look at it, it has anxiety
To celebrate The Boy Who Lived’s birthday this year—he’s 38 on July 31—we’re going to take a trip through five of the most wonderful wizarding homes Harry comes to know and sometimes love very much. To narrow it down, we selected homes showcased in the films that had some coveted real-world features (wizards love brick fireplaces!). We also factored in other elements like Harry’s experiences there, and the general demeanor of its owners. Sure, Malfoy Manor is sick AF, but it is also cold—both temperature wise and emotionally—plus people were tortured there, so you won’t find it amongst our top five (feel free to let your father hear about it, Draco).
I kissed behind his ear (and then he punched me in the arm, he’s shy in public) and I heard one of them whisper to the other something along the lines of “We get to see close up yaoi on here!”.
(Neither of us are even Japanese)
I was kinda offended, so I took my boyfriend by the hand and left.
It made us feel very uncomfortable.
I just want to say:
Our love and relationship isn’t for your entertainment.
Nor is it here for you to fetishize and sexualize.
Please just keep your “yaoi xDD” to just fiction, and please do not call us “yaoi”.
Many dismiss this as not a problem, which I find rude as they have never experienced this so they don’t really have much to say against this.
Thank you for reading.
– Submitted by Anonymous
* ^^^ Sorry to hear that anon D: that’s pretty terrible.
Really? I guess being accepted is just as bad as being hated. I bet of the girls had hissed in disgust he’d be sobbing and ranting about acceptance.
Having straight people only see you as fap material isn’t acceptance you fucking homophobic walnut
Kelston Boys’ High School perform a massive haka in honour of the new Maori carving on campus
I live for this
This is the first recording of a Haka I’ve seen that manages to capture even a fraction of the true energy of it. And it’s because there’s so many of them that those boys would have been shaking the ground.
Seeing these boys in their modern uniforms and jackets and backpacks that say NIKE, participating in this ancient ritual, really just drives home what people mean when they say “I am not a costume.” The clothes here are not important. The energy and participation are important.
Seeing things like this…an ancient tradition, in the modern world, performed by young men just as it was by their forefathers…is such a beautiful, wonderful thing.
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